Monthly Archives: January 2010

On Bad Pain


On Fetlife, DK said: I get intensely freaked out by tops who seem indifferent to any old pain or who seem out of control of the pain or think that any kind of pain is good… is likely to get … Continue reading

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What is Dominance?


This is one of the best descriptions I’ve ever come across: “Dominance seems often to attract those that confuse dominance with power misused…its so not like that…imagine the best teacher, boss, sports captain… whom ever…did they lead by yelling?… or … Continue reading

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Honoring Agreements and Keeping Promises


(continuing on): If a dominant makes promises, whether it is with the DS or MS relationship, but fails to carry those out, even early on during the building stages of the relationship, but expects his submissive or his slave to … Continue reading

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Honesty and Lying in Relationships


What are your expectations from a partner regarding honesty vs lying?  Do you think that lying is ever OK? ================================================ I personally  expect full openness and honesty – and I give it in return.  Unfortunately, I once had the experience … Continue reading

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Sadism For the Sake of Sadism – or What is Pure Sadism?


I consider a pure sadist, in the BDSM context, to be someone who gets off in some way from hurting others, regardless of whether or not that person likes it, and even prefers it when they don’t – or at … Continue reading

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Criteria For a Play Partner


When I think of the phrase “play partner” per se, that to me automatically implies something casual, not a relationship per se. For a casual play partner, I don’t have really set criteria, except that I must like them (usually … Continue reading

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