Category Archives: BDSM – General

Empathy and Trust


[W]hat good is it to be in a relationship with someone who can’t tell the difference between being really mean, and being REALLY mean. How could I trust someone like that? How good is play as a submissive if you … Continue reading

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Training


From SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude _ Principles, Skills and Tools”, by Guy Baldwin: Training means something more than giving orders and correcting compliance. A sadly small percentage of the Masters i know savor the often delicately balanced orchestrations by … Continue reading

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Preying on Newbies – a New Class!


by SimplyMichael (reposted with permission) Preying on Newbies! Ever wonder how those masters out there nail one new hottie after another? Curious how they can get away with fucking over one after another with no repercussions? Attend this class and … Continue reading

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Experience Requirements for Mentors


I think I’ve now heard it all. At a munch today, the new mentorship director of the major local kink organization that sponsors the munch (the Society of Janus) announced that lack of experience in the scene is *not* a … Continue reading

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I Will Not Apologize


Stolen from multiple people on Fetlife: ========================================= I will not apologize for setting my own personal boundaries. I will not apologize for doing whatever it takes to enforce those boundaries. I will not apologize for doing whatever it takes to … Continue reading

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Awareness of BDSM Related Abuse Is Growing


Awareness of abuse in the kink community is growing, and I could not be more grateful. Sadly, my friend Mollena Williams, who recently stepped down from her post as International Ms Leather 2010, was raped and only recently spoke up … Continue reading

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Report on RACK Panel


On March 22, SF Citadel hosted a RACK panel of leaders and educators from the BDSM community dedicated to discussing this question, including its relationship to abuse. The evening’s discussion was terrific.  Panelists included Levi (who was previously employed by … Continue reading

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Your Kink Is Not OK


There.  I’ve said it. The words that will earn me the hatred of a lot of the BDSM world.  Words that are anathema to this subculture.  Thinking that runs counter to the mass-think of our counterculture, that threatens all kinds … Continue reading

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