Category Archives: masochism

On the Use of Labels in the BDSM World


This has become more and more of a pet peeve for me over the past several years. No one fits neatly into any of these little boxes, in my experience. Even those who most seem to always have elements that … Continue reading

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Can’t Get Rid of It…


Why can’t I get rid of this lust? This need?  This craving? Despite abusive relationships and swearing I’ll never go near D/s or anything like it again on more than one occasion, I am still continually drawn back to… whatever … Continue reading

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Criteria For a Play Partner


When I think of the phrase “play partner” per se, that to me automatically implies something casual, not a relationship per se. For a casual play partner, I don’t have really set criteria, except that I must like them (usually … Continue reading

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How I Would Explain My Role


First of all, I don’t fit in any neat little boxes. There’s no one word that describes how I identify, what my role is. I generally say “submissive” because that’s probably the closest of the options usually offered, but I … Continue reading

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Alternative Sexual Practices – Kent State article response


first posted 9/17/06 @ 5:34 PM EST; updated 12/17/09 =============================== In response to the 9/14/06 article in the Kent State “Stater Online” entitled “Alternative sexual practices abound among college students“, I would like to offer these remarks. While it is … Continue reading

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