Category Archives: Negotiation

Tolerating Criminal Behavior in the Scene, and Judging Others


Several things have happened over the years that have had me really starting to look at what happens in our circles when clearly and unambiguously illegal behavior comes to light. My first encounter with this sort of thing was finding … Continue reading

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How You Can Help Combat the Abuse Problem


A newbie I met the other day told a tale of being abused or having her limits violated when playing with someone she said is well known at the Citadel, our local community playspace.  She said she’d like to get … Continue reading

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Parameters of Consent – Part 1


I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and speaking with others about the issue of abuse within the kink community, and how best to identify it, deal with it, and prevent it.  This post is the first in what I … Continue reading

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