Category Archives: sadism

Being a Sadist if You Have Buried Anger


CloudyHead asked if he should be a sadist if he’s dealing with buried anger towards his mother and feeling resentment towards women.  Here is my response: I completely agree that acting on buried anger of this sort is not healthy, … Continue reading

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On the Use of Labels in the BDSM World


This has become more and more of a pet peeve for me over the past several years. No one fits neatly into any of these little boxes, in my experience. Even those who most seem to always have elements that … Continue reading

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Can’t Get Rid of It…


Why can’t I get rid of this lust? This need?  This craving? Despite abusive relationships and swearing I’ll never go near D/s or anything like it again on more than one occasion, I am still continually drawn back to… whatever … Continue reading

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Sadism For the Sake of Sadism – or What is Pure Sadism?


I consider a pure sadist, in the BDSM context, to be someone who gets off in some way from hurting others, regardless of whether or not that person likes it, and even prefers it when they don’t – or at … Continue reading

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Criteria For a Play Partner


When I think of the phrase “play partner” per se, that to me automatically implies something casual, not a relationship per se. For a casual play partner, I don’t have really set criteria, except that I must like them (usually … Continue reading

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Alternative Sexual Practices – Kent State article response


first posted 9/17/06 @ 5:34 PM EST; updated 12/17/09 =============================== In response to the 9/14/06 article in the Kent State “Stater Online” entitled “Alternative sexual practices abound among college students“, I would like to offer these remarks. While it is … Continue reading

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