Category Archives: Submission

Protected: Is It Possible for a Dominant to Be Too Indulgent?


There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.

Posted in Dominance, Submission | Enter your password to view comments.

Protected: Punishment – or Deal With Root Problem?


There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.

Posted in Dominance, Submission | Tagged , , , , , , , | Enter your password to view comments.

Being An Asshole, or Topping From the Bottom?


Thank you to Devastating Yet Inconsequential for permission to repost this post.  My comments are below the double line. topping from the bottom Can we please, please retire this concept? Listen, there is such a thing as being an asshole in … Continue reading

Posted in Abuse and BDSM, Dominance, Submission | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

It’s the Internet, Stupid! How the Online World Encourages Abuse in the BDSM Subculture


I received a private message from someone who was commenting on how BDSM per se doesn’t inspire abuse, but that “…people watch vids on the internet, get it into their heads that subs are just human punching bags that will … Continue reading

Posted in Abuse and BDSM, Dominance, Submission | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

A Submissive’s Needs


Wants vs Needs (author unknown) We often confuse these two things: I WANT and I NEED. Although they may seem to be the same at first glance, there is a huge difference in the two. We want a lot of … Continue reading

Posted in Submission | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Having a D/s Relationship – Why She Wants to Be Submissive


I did not write this, but found it out in the blogosphere.  Apparently it’s going around, but it is not known who wrote it.  I don’t agree with every single point, but for the most part, it rings true, and … Continue reading

Posted in consensuality, Dominance, Submission | 8 Comments

Threatening to Leave


The only time a threat to leave is valid, IMO, is when there is a serious problem that is or will become a deal-breaker if not dealt with. There are threats, and then there are threats. It’s one thing to … Continue reading

Posted in Dominance, Submission | Tagged , | Leave a comment

Incompatibility vs Uncaring/Abusive?


Dominants, how would you handle a sub/slave who acts this way or in a way you don’t like when you play with him/her but is someone you want to keep on your chain? @redcheeks, I’d start by making sure I … Continue reading

Posted in Abuse and BDSM, Submission | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

I Miss… I Don’t Miss


Please visit the updated version of this post on the new blog at http://kinkylittlegirl.net/2010/03/11/i-miss-i-dont-miss/ ======================= 12/22/09 Every morning I still awaken with the thought of how much I miss you, how much I want to be with you again, how … Continue reading

Posted in Abuse and BDSM, Dominance, Narcissism, Personal, Submission | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

On the Use of Labels in the BDSM World


This has become more and more of a pet peeve for me over the past several years. No one fits neatly into any of these little boxes, in my experience. Even those who most seem to always have elements that … Continue reading

Posted in Bottoming, Dominance, masochism, sadism, slavery, Submission | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments