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Controlling Men Could Face Criminal Charges


Deputy Prime Minister Nick Clegg of the UK wants to “…make abusive behaviour by men a criminal offence, even if it does not involve physical violence), according to the Sunday Mirror. He also wants to extend the law to include … Continue reading

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What Would You Dump Someone Immediately For?


Is there anything a partner (or other person in your life) could do that would cause you to dump them immediately? And are there things you’ve said you would never give a second chance for that you not only have … Continue reading

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I Will Not Apologize


Stolen from multiple people on Fetlife: ========================================= I will not apologize for setting my own personal boundaries. I will not apologize for doing whatever it takes to enforce those boundaries. I will not apologize for doing whatever it takes to … Continue reading

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Do You Mind Your Guy Looking at Other Women?


I think there’s also the “how is he looking” issue for women. If a guy is looking in an appreciative “wow that’s a good looking woman” sort of way – I think women are more “understanding” about it. If he’s … Continue reading

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Protected: Breaking the Rules


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Trust, Safety, and Surrender


From Deborah Teramis Christian: “Trust, safety and surrender are a triad that, in combination, can unlock the doors to deep submission and connectedness between D/s partners. Creating that environment takes some work, though. Here is an online talk I gave … Continue reading

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Dominants Coming Through on Their Word


@Xinergy said on Fetlife: The Dominant failing to come through with what they say they are going to do is devastating to the submissive. The submissive is in this lifestyle because they need that comfort and safety. They need to … Continue reading

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Broken Promises and Agreements


What do you do if a dominant breaks a promise? Do you accept an apology, forget about it and go on? Watch to see if it becomes a consistent pattern? Does it matter to you whether the promise was made … Continue reading

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