Tag Archives: community leader

Trust Me…


Of course you can trust me. I’m a skilled top. I mean, you saw me swinging a whip around some and it looked good, didn’t it? You can surely tell I’ve been practicing for a long time, and that I … Continue reading

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BDSM Abuse Survivors’ Network


Are you in an abusive BDSM relationship?  Or think you may be, but aren’t sure?  Had a scene go terribly wrong? Been raped or otherwise injured nonconsensually in a BDSM context? Do you feel alone, as if you are the … Continue reading

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What To Do About a Dangerous Top? What If They Are a Community Leader?


Recently I bottomed to a well-known, fairly high-profile member of the Bay Area’s leather community, and I was very upset to find that in real play this person did not live up to the high standards of safety and consensuality … Continue reading

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