Tag Archives: Dominance

Forgetting


I’ve written some about forgetting to do things one has promised and whether or not it is abusive, and I’d like to add some thoughts to that specifically about what it means when a submissive forgets to do something she … Continue reading

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The Nature of Dominance


In a blog about the difference between BDSM and abuse, establishing matters such as the need for the dominant to live up to his own standards and to make sure he keeps in mind that he is dealing with a … Continue reading

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Your Kink Is Not OK


There.  I’ve said it. The words that will earn me the hatred of a lot of the BDSM world.  Words that are anathema to this subculture.  Thinking that runs counter to the mass-think of our counterculture, that threatens all kinds … Continue reading

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Being An Asshole, or Topping From the Bottom?


Thank you to Devastating Yet Inconsequential for permission to repost this post.  My comments are below the double line. topping from the bottom Can we please, please retire this concept? Listen, there is such a thing as being an asshole in … Continue reading

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Protected: Hypocrisy and Abuse


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I Miss… I Don’t Miss


Please visit the updated version of this post on the new blog at http://kinkylittlegirl.net/2010/03/11/i-miss-i-dont-miss/ ======================= 12/22/09 Every morning I still awaken with the thought of how much I miss you, how much I want to be with you again, how … Continue reading

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Protected: Breaking the Rules


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Trust, Safety, and Surrender


From Deborah Teramis Christian: “Trust, safety and surrender are a triad that, in combination, can unlock the doors to deep submission and connectedness between D/s partners. Creating that environment takes some work, though. Here is an online talk I gave … Continue reading

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Can’t Get Rid of It…


Why can’t I get rid of this lust? This need?  This craving? Despite abusive relationships and swearing I’ll never go near D/s or anything like it again on more than one occasion, I am still continually drawn back to… whatever … Continue reading

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What is Dominance?


This is one of the best descriptions I’ve ever come across: “Dominance seems often to attract those that confuse dominance with power misused…its so not like that…imagine the best teacher, boss, sports captain… whom ever…did they lead by yelling?… or … Continue reading

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