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When Is Abuse Not Abuse?


One of the things that has struck me as I read and learn more about abuse is how so much of the literature on the subject seems to pathologize a lot that is either entirely normal, or which can easily … Continue reading

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Rape, Assault, Battery, and Police Reporting


I came across a fantastic post the other day by Saynine about the problem of rape within the BDSM context entitled “This Isn’t Play…BDSM and Rape“, following on the heels of reports by my friend, the outgoing International Ms Leather, … Continue reading

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Threatening to Leave


The only time a threat to leave is valid, IMO, is when there is a serious problem that is or will become a deal-breaker if not dealt with. There are threats, and then there are threats. It’s one thing to … Continue reading

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Protected: Breaking the Rules


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Sadism For the Sake of Sadism – or What is Pure Sadism?


I consider a pure sadist, in the BDSM context, to be someone who gets off in some way from hurting others, regardless of whether or not that person likes it, and even prefers it when they don’t – or at … Continue reading

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