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Report on RACK Panel


On March 22, SF Citadel hosted a RACK panel of leaders and educators from the BDSM community dedicated to discussing this question, including its relationship to abuse. The evening’s discussion was terrific.  Panelists included Levi (who was previously employed by … Continue reading

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Your Kink Is Not OK


There.  I’ve said it. The words that will earn me the hatred of a lot of the BDSM world.  Words that are anathema to this subculture.  Thinking that runs counter to the mass-think of our counterculture, that threatens all kinds … Continue reading

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It’s the Internet, Stupid! How the Online World Encourages Abuse in the BDSM Subculture


I received a private message from someone who was commenting on how BDSM per se doesn’t inspire abuse, but that “…people watch vids on the internet, get it into their heads that subs are just human punching bags that will … Continue reading

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Protected: Breaking the Rules


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A Slave is Not A Submissive


By Deborah Teramis Christian A submissive explores the piquant terrain of the surrendering of power. It is not surprising that folks engaged in D/s often spend a fair amount of energy determining what are the appropriate bounds of submission and … Continue reading

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How I Would Explain My Role


First of all, I don’t fit in any neat little boxes. There’s no one word that describes how I identify, what my role is. I generally say “submissive” because that’s probably the closest of the options usually offered, but I … Continue reading

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What Does a Collar Mean?


  To me, a collar has virtually the same significance as a wedding ring, absent only the legal status. When I accept one (other than in a situation in which it is clearly only being used as a toy for … Continue reading

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Alternative Sexual Practices – Kent State article response


first posted 9/17/06 @ 5:34 PM EST; updated 12/17/09 =============================== In response to the 9/14/06 article in the Kent State “Stater Online” entitled “Alternative sexual practices abound among college students“, I would like to offer these remarks. While it is … Continue reading

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