Tag Archives: rape

Tolerating Criminal Behavior in the Scene, and Judging Others


Several things have happened over the years that have had me really starting to look at what happens in our circles when clearly and unambiguously illegal behavior comes to light. My first encounter with this sort of thing was finding … Continue reading

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BDSM Abuse Survivors’ Network


Are you in an abusive BDSM relationship?  Or think you may be, but aren’t sure?  Had a scene go terribly wrong? Been raped or otherwise injured nonconsensually in a BDSM context? Do you feel alone, as if you are the … Continue reading

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More on Rape and Abuse in the BDSM Community


More great thoughts from Kitty Stryker, and a whole host of commentary from other community members about the topic of rape, (sexual) assault, victim blaming, and tolerating abuse in the kink community, and what we should do about it.  If … Continue reading

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Rape Definition – Rape, “Duress”, “Menace” (California)


California Penal Code § 261 (2011) § 261.  Rape; “Duress”; “Menace” (a) Rape is an act of sexual intercourse accomplished with a person not the spouse of the perpetrator, under any of the following circumstances: (1) Where a person is … Continue reading

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I Never Called It Rape


Fantastic article on the problem and prevalence of rape and sexual assault that goes unnamed and unpunished in the kink community by Kitty Stryker at PurrVersatility and on the Good Vibrations blog.  Both links are posted here because of the … Continue reading

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Pushing Past Hard Limits


From The Mistress Manual, in a post decrying Mo’s rape: A Dominant pushing past hard limits, ignoring the sub’s refusal, has just crossed over from BDSM into the very different, very ugly world of rape and sexual abuse. … Dom/mes … Continue reading

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Rape, Assault, Battery, and Police Reporting


I came across a fantastic post the other day by Saynine about the problem of rape within the BDSM context entitled “This Isn’t Play…BDSM and Rape“, following on the heels of reports by my friend, the outgoing International Ms Leather, … Continue reading

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It’s the Internet, Stupid! How the Online World Encourages Abuse in the BDSM Subculture


I received a private message from someone who was commenting on how BDSM per se doesn’t inspire abuse, but that “…people watch vids on the internet, get it into their heads that subs are just human punching bags that will … Continue reading

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Alternative Sexual Practices – Kent State article response


first posted 9/17/06 @ 5:34 PM EST; updated 12/17/09 =============================== In response to the 9/14/06 article in the Kent State “Stater Online” entitled “Alternative sexual practices abound among college students“, I would like to offer these remarks. While it is … Continue reading

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