Tag Archives: Submission

Forgetting


I’ve written some about forgetting to do things one has promised and whether or not it is abusive, and I’d like to add some thoughts to that specifically about what it means when a submissive forgets to do something she … Continue reading

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Being An Asshole, or Topping From the Bottom?


Thank you to Devastating Yet Inconsequential for permission to repost this post.  My comments are below the double line. topping from the bottom Can we please, please retire this concept? Listen, there is such a thing as being an asshole in … Continue reading

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Protected: Hypocrisy and Abuse


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I Miss… I Don’t Miss


Please visit the updated version of this post on the new blog at http://kinkylittlegirl.net/2010/03/11/i-miss-i-dont-miss/ ======================= 12/22/09 Every morning I still awaken with the thought of how much I miss you, how much I want to be with you again, how … Continue reading

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Protected: Breaking the Rules


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Trust, Safety, and Surrender


From Deborah Teramis Christian: “Trust, safety and surrender are a triad that, in combination, can unlock the doors to deep submission and connectedness between D/s partners. Creating that environment takes some work, though. Here is an online talk I gave … Continue reading

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Can’t Get Rid of It…


Why can’t I get rid of this lust? This need?  This craving? Despite abusive relationships and swearing I’ll never go near D/s or anything like it again on more than one occasion, I am still continually drawn back to… whatever … Continue reading

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What is Dominance?


This is one of the best descriptions I’ve ever come across: “Dominance seems often to attract those that confuse dominance with power misused…its so not like that…imagine the best teacher, boss, sports captain… whom ever…did they lead by yelling?… or … Continue reading

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Tantrums, Dominants, and BDSM


I’ve been reading in a few places lately about people throwing tantrums, in both the vanilla world and in BDSM. In an excellent post on the subject, entitled “That’s Life (Vanilla and BDSM Tantrums)“, Ooooohhhhyesss concludes that “Tantrums are tantrums … Continue reading

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Sub Frenzy


This is without a doubt the best article on sub frenzy I’ve ever come across. Doms should be aware of this tendency, particularly in newbie subs, and follow the recommendations below in order to avoid misunderstandings and hurt feelings. ======================================== … Continue reading

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