Tag Archives: WIITWD

Report on RACK Panel


On March 22, SF Citadel hosted a RACK panel of leaders and educators from the BDSM community dedicated to discussing this question, including its relationship to abuse. The evening’s discussion was terrific.  Panelists included Levi (who was previously employed by … Continue reading

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Rape, Assault, Battery, and Police Reporting


I came across a fantastic post the other day by Saynine about the problem of rape within the BDSM context entitled “This Isn’t Play…BDSM and Rape“, following on the heels of reports by my friend, the outgoing International Ms Leather, … Continue reading

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Your Kink Is Not OK


There.  I’ve said it. The words that will earn me the hatred of a lot of the BDSM world.  Words that are anathema to this subculture.  Thinking that runs counter to the mass-think of our counterculture, that threatens all kinds … Continue reading

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Dealing With Anger While Playing, and By Playing


How do you deal with anger when it comes up in a scene?  Or when wanting to find a way to release it to start with? My friend DaddyDarin weighed in the subject in a thread entitled How to release … Continue reading

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Domestic Violence and Abuse: Signs of Abuse and Abusive Relationships


One of the best and most comprehensive descriptions  I’ve seen of the problem of domestic abuse is at HelpGuide.org, and is entitled  Domestic Violence and Abuse: Signs of Abuse and Abusive Relationships. A couple of excerpts follow, but please read … Continue reading

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Protected: Breaking the Rules


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Does the BDSM Community Enable Abuse?


In a post entitled Evidence that the BDSM community does not enable abuse, Clarisse Thorn posits that the existence of several different initiatives outlining the differences between BDSM and abuse indicates that we do not enable abuse. While many such … Continue reading

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Tantrums, Dominants, and BDSM


I’ve been reading in a few places lately about people throwing tantrums, in both the vanilla world and in BDSM. In an excellent post on the subject, entitled “That’s Life (Vanilla and BDSM Tantrums)“, Ooooohhhhyesss concludes that “Tantrums are tantrums … Continue reading

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