Category Archives: Abuse and BDSM

Can You Face Her In the Morning (How to Assault People Less)


A great repost from a Fetlifer on how to avoid being the douchebag this blog warns people to watch out for.  You can read it on the new version of this blog. Please subscribe while you’re there! And thanks for … Continue reading

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It’s Got to Stop! No Matter the Price


The epidemic of domestic violence and sexual assault has got to stop – and the taboos that drive victims underground and silence them have simply got to be broken, no matter the cost that some of us will pay to … Continue reading

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Blaming the Victim of Lying About Harm Done to Her


I’ve got a new blog post up on the new version of my site at kinkylittlegirl.net about abusers blaming their victims of lying when they speak out about what happened to them. Please visit over there to read it and comment; … Continue reading

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Sociopaths in the Scene


“What is a sociopath? “Someone without conscience, empathy, or remorse for having harmed someone by their words or deeds. They live to suit themselves and use people in the power games that form the core of their lives. These people … Continue reading

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I Hurt…


Yes, I hurt.  I still hurt. I’m not talking here about the emotional pain and damage that lingers, although that is certainly still there, but about the physical. Yes, lingering physical pain.  From what he did to me.  Pain that … Continue reading

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Trust Me…


Of course you can trust me. I’m a skilled top. I mean, you saw me swinging a whip around some and it looked good, didn’t it? You can surely tell I’ve been practicing for a long time, and that I … Continue reading

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Tolerating Criminal Behavior in the Scene, and Judging Others


Several things have happened over the years that have had me really starting to look at what happens in our circles when clearly and unambiguously illegal behavior comes to light. My first encounter with this sort of thing was finding … Continue reading

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How You Can Help Combat the Abuse Problem


A newbie I met the other day told a tale of being abused or having her limits violated when playing with someone she said is well known at the Citadel, our local community playspace.  She said she’d like to get … Continue reading

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Empathy and Trust


[W]hat good is it to be in a relationship with someone who can’t tell the difference between being really mean, and being REALLY mean. How could I trust someone like that? How good is play as a submissive if you … Continue reading

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Training


From SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude _ Principles, Skills and Tools”, by Guy Baldwin: Training means something more than giving orders and correcting compliance. A sadly small percentage of the Masters i know savor the often delicately balanced orchestrations by … Continue reading

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