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Sociopaths in the Scene

“What is a sociopath? “Someone without conscience, empathy, or remorse for having harmed someone by their words or deeds. They live to suit themselves and use people in the power games that form the core of their lives. These people … Continue reading

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20 Traits of the Malignant Narcissist

Oh, how much of this rings true!  I don’t know the original source of this, but it’s brilliant.   Learning about malignant narcissism helped me probably more than anything other than what I learned about sex addiction to understand what … Continue reading

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I Hurt…

Yes, I hurt.  I still hurt. I’m not talking here about the emotional pain and damage that lingers, although that is certainly still there, but about the physical. Yes, lingering physical pain.  From what he did to me.  Pain that … Continue reading

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No Arrest, It Didn’t Happen? What If “Everybody Loves Him”? Abuse and Pillars of the Community

Believe it or not, there are people out there who actually believe that if no arrests are made, and no one goes to jail, that that means that no abuse could possibly have occurred, no matter what any of the … Continue reading

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They’ll Let Anyone In

It was only a matter of time, I suppose, before a known, self-admitted animal fucker (who crowed about this proclivity in a very public post in a very sexually-related location) made it onto a particular local party list – and … Continue reading

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How You Can Help Combat the Abuse Problem

A newbie I met the other day told a tale of being abused or having her limits violated when playing with someone she said is well known at the Citadel, our local community playspace.  She said she’d like to get … Continue reading

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Empathy and Trust

[W]hat good is it to be in a relationship with someone who can’t tell the difference between being really mean, and being REALLY mean. How could I trust someone like that? How good is play as a submissive if you … Continue reading

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Cool – the Urban Dictionary published my definition of drama!  See page 6, #36. It’s also what bystanders call it when they don’t know what the hell they’re talking about, especially because they weren’t there.  Too bad I forgot to … Continue reading

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Controlling Men Could Face Criminal Charges

Deputy Prime Minister Nick Clegg of the UK wants to “…make abusive behaviour by men a criminal offence, even if it does not involve physical violence), according to the Sunday Mirror. He also wants to extend the law to include … Continue reading

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What Would You Dump Someone Immediately For?

Is there anything a partner (or other person in your life) could do that would cause you to dump them immediately? And are there things you’ve said you would never give a second chance for that you not only have … Continue reading

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